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An emperor fell in love with a poor woman. He was an emperor! The woman was so poor that she could have been bought, there was no problem. He called the woman and her father and said: Take whatever you want from the treasury, but give me this girl. I have fallen in love with her. Yesterday I was going out on horseback, I saw her filling water from the well and since then I have not been able to sleep.
The father was very happy, but the daughter became very sad. She said, "Forgive me! If you say so, I will come to your palace, but I am in love with someone. I will even become your wife, but this love will be a hindrance. I will not be able to love you." The emperor was a thoughtful person. He thought that this would be of no use. How can she love me? He tried to find out whom she loves.
An ordinary man. The emperor was very surprised that she was in love with him instead of him! But love is always inexplicable. He asked his ministers what should I do to break this love? You will be surprised, the advice given by the ministers was very amazing. You will not be able to believe that this advice was ever given. Because this advice... this story is old, a thousand years older than Freud.
Freud could have given this advice. Psychology can give this advice now. And even psychology would be a little hesitant in giving advice. The ministers advised that both of them should be stripped naked and tied to a pillar, both of them should be tied to each other and tied to the pillar.
The emperor said: What will happen with this? This is their only desire, to be tied in each other's arms.
He said: Don't worry. They should not be released, they should be tied up. They were tied in an embrace and naked to a pillar.
Now just think, the woman you love, no matter who she is, even if she is the most beautiful woman in the world; or the man you love, even if he is Mr. Universe, it makes no difference — how long will you be able to embrace each other? At first both were very happy, because due to the barriers of society they were not able to meet. They belonged to different castes, different religions, they used to secretly chat here and there for a while. Naked in each other's embrace! At first they were very happy, they ran and embraced each other. But when they were tied to a pillar with ropes, how long can the happiness last! Only a few minutes must have passed when they started getting nervous, how to separate now, how to be separate now, how to be free now? But they remained tied.
A few hours passed and then more trouble started. There was excretion of excreta. Dirt spread. Smell started coming from each other's mouth. Sweat also started coming from each other. There was such panic. And they had to remain tied for twenty four hours. Then as soon as they were released, the story says that they ran away from each other and never saw each other again. That young man left that village. This was a very cruel way to end love, but very psychological.
You see, in the West, love is being uprooted, it is breaking! The reason? There is no hindrance between man and woman, that is why love is breaking. Man and woman have become so easily available to each other that love cannot survive, love will break. There is no joint family in the West, so both husband and wife are living alone in a house. Whenever they want to meet, they can meet; whatever they want to say, they can sit together for as long as they want – there is no hindrance, no obstacle. Soon they get over it. Soon happiness turns into sorrow.
You have noticed that the first time you listen to the same music, it gives you pleasure; when you listen to it again, it does not give you the same pleasure. The third time you listen to it, the pleasure is even less. The fourth time you start feeling bored. If someone plays a record for the fifth time, you think that your head will spin. You say: "Stop it now! Enough is enough." The same music gave you pleasure the first time, less the second time, and even less the third time. Economists talk about the law: "Law of Diminishing Returns." If you repeat the same thing every time, the amount of pleasure keeps decreasing.
The old way was a way to protect love. Husband and wife could not meet. They could not meet during the day. Husband and wife could not even meet, let alone meeting someone else's wife.
In the West, it has become so easy to meet someone else's wife, as earlier it was not easy to meet even your own wife. You could not meet during the day. There were elders in the family, how could you meet in front of them! Even meeting at night was very secretive. Meeting your wife was secretive! Because you could not speak loudly.
Small houses in which fifty people are sleeping. Secretly, in the darkness of the night. The husband did not even know his wife's face properly, how she looked. How would he know in the dark? He had never lifted her veil and looked at her properly in tears. If love had survived for a long time, it was not surprising, because love and happiness never had the chance to fade. Both of them were busy with their work throughout the day and the memories continued.
Now the situation has changed. We are sitting in front of each other for 24 hours, tied to the same pillar. We are getting irritated with each other. The wife wants us to get up, go somewhere, do something, why are we sitting here?
Life has amazing rules! There is not much difference between happiness and sadness. The same excitement is happiness, the same excitement is sadness. If you like something, it is happiness, if you don't like something, it is sadness. The only difference is of liking and disliking. Both are waves. Both are happening within time. Both are waves of the lake of time.
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